Gay Guardian writer fails to comprehend bisexuality. Cries about white privilege.

Fresh off their article claiming that the trauma of the holocaust somehow altered the DNA of survivors, or the one talking about “real vampires”, The Guardian has come out with perhaps their greatest piece of journalism yet. Some gay black guy crying about straight white men allegedly having gay sex. The article whines about straight people. It whines about men. Best of all, it whines about straight men who happen to be white. This is like the ultimate wet dream for The Guardian’s top brass.

The writer of this article.
The writer of this article.

From The Guardian

If I have learned anything in my life so far, it’s that the only group of people more obsessed with touching a penis than gay men is straight ones. Promise.
I began noticing this all the way back at my very white elementary school, when boys would roughhouse and grope each other on the playground while always making sure to punctuate their grabs with gay slurs that called the receiver of that grab a homosexual.
Has anyone else ever observed behaviour like this? This just seems too stupid to be believable. Nevertheless, as far as the writer is concerned…
As I got older, those grabs evolved. And over time – especially once I got to my very white college – the grabs from straight men became caressing or kissing or, for the bold, sex. And during all of this, these men, these straight men who were always my bully growing up or even in college classrooms, maintained their straightness while I was constantly reminded of how they despised my gayness even as I entertained their episodic gay-interests.
I don’t understand what’s actually happening here. Is this gay guy complaining that he got to sleep with a bunch of allegedly straight guys? Is he trying to say that they oppressed him somehow by sleeping with him while claiming to not be gay? I’m two paragraphs in, and already I have no idea what the fuck is going on. This article seems to be an incoherent mess. Is he too stupid to understand that these “straight” guys were either bisexual, or in denial about their own homosexuality? Does he really believe that an actual straight guy would have sex with another man?
Typical
Typical “straight men” engaging in typical “straight men” activities. Image photoshopped to protect younger readers.
And I am not alone in being the object of ambivalent, conflicted desire by men who identify as straight.
“I think homosexual desire and homosexual contact are staples of the human experience,” professor Jane Ward, University of California, Riverside, recently told me. “But are also subject to incredible cultural baggage.”
But why are all these straight men vying to take a swim in the rainbow pool?
Because they aren’t really straight you stupid moron.
Ward, who recently published her latest book, Not Gay: Sex Between Straight White Men, asked herself a similar question years back after hearing from a man she went on a date with about how ‘gay’ his straight fraternity had been.
From her research, she has arrived at an interesting conclusion: straight men – specifically white men – are having sex with other men to affirm just how straight they are, because to be straight and still be able to perform ‘gay sex’ – while always remaining uninterested – is the height of white masculinity. And they are the primary group doing this, because they can.
…seriously, when the fuck did this become a thing? When did having gay sex become the ultimate way to prove you aren’t gay? This is an Orwellian level of mind-fuckery.
Having gay sex mean you're straight.
Having gay sex mean you’re straight.
 
“Sometimes white people, and men in particular, bristle at the concept of ‘privilege,’” she says, speaking more broadly about the term that many use to describe inherent advantages white people have due to skin color.
Oh yes, all those wonderful advantages we all supposedly have, but nobody ever actually explains to us what they are, because whenever they try to, they usually end up being proven wrong.
Aren't we so privileged?
Aren’t we so privileged?
“But in the context of [my] book, recognizing privilege isn’t about denying what is unique about individual straight white men; it’s about recognizing that straight white men have some unique cultural resources they can draw on to explain away and justify their presumably discordant sex practices.”
Are you going to name what those “cultural resources” are? No, of course not.
According to Ward, this behavior is very much tied to their white privilege, heteronormativety and male privilege to create a nexus in which straight white men can have sex with one another and face no repercussions.
“White men have more room to push sexual boundaries without being immediately pathologized [due to their privileges],” she continued.
What are these alleged “privileges” that allow straight white men to have gay sex without being thought of as gay? I know the whole article is complete bollocks, with no basis in reality whatsoever, but assuming it could be true, the only possible explanation I can think of is that white people, as well as being the least racist of all races, are also the least homophobic. Therefore, they’re less likely to give their peers a hard time for engaging in such activities. That’s not some unearned privilege. Rather, it’s a failing on the part of the other races. Assuming that is the reason, why should white people feel guilty because members of other races are more homophobic than them?
And she’s right – and I am annoyed that she is on a certain level.
So far this year, LGBTQ people of color – especially transgender women of color – have faced record-breaking amounts of violence – a 20-year-old transgender woman was murdered in Dallas this week. Her name was Shade Schuler.
The group that faces less violence, while perpetuating it the quickest in our current moment, is straight white men.
Except as I‘ve pointed out already, when you adjust for a per capita basis, the demographic who commit the most violence are actually black men, not white.
All whitey's fault somehow. If only we didn't oppress them so much in some vague, unspecified ways that are never actually explained.
All whitey’s fault somehow. If only we didn’t oppress them so much in some vague, unspecified ways that are never actually explained.
I don’t have an issue with straight men having sex with other men and not calling it gay or having it change their identity.
And yet you write an article crying about it.
People can and should do whatever they desire as long as it’s consensual. But what I find annoying is how this game called life is so unevenly stacked – with one group holding all the cards.
 
We see that with the disproportionate ways in which people of color face police violence, poverty, health disparities and this list could keep going.
*sigh*
I’m actually fed up repeating myself. I’ve debunked this stupidity over and over again on this blog. I really just don’t have the energy to repeat myself again.  I just suggest reading here, here, or here just as a few samples instead.
As a gay man, who has faced violence for being gay, to see evidence that shows the very men that perpetuate this violence are doing the same sexual acts as me to show just how ‘straight’ they are is absolutely gross – and homophobic at best.
(Or how problematic is that white straight men get a whole book in many ways defending their straightness, but black men are most of the time demonized with words like ‘down low’ in books about their lives.)
It’s a wonder this guy ever actually managed to find the time to write this article, what will all the crying he seems to be doing about this alleged oppression that he has experienced.
Being gay is still not easy, especially as a person of color. And thanks to the help of the marriage equality movement, being gay is becoming less and less gay, and much more straight – with many seeing ‘us’ as finally close to being straight. This thought has even led to our gayborhoods beginning to disappear as acceptance of LGBT people rises.
In 2015, gay seems to be less gay than it ever has been. And while I want acceptance of us in the world at large, I still want us. I want us queer, I want us to have individualistic characteristics as a group, I want us to have something that is ours and not something that a straight white man can play with to prove just how much of a man he is.
I’m not any less confused now than I was when I first start reading the article.
But what I don’t want is to hear that white privilege not only lets straight men get paid more than me, face less violence than me, live longer than people like me, but also have sex with other men and not facing any of the violence people like me face – because that is incredibly infuriating.
As he didn’t actually cite any sources for those claims he made, I’m not even going to bother responding to them. It’s not my job to do his research for him.
Holy shit, that was one of the most ridiculous things I’ve ever read. Even by The Guardian’s already low standards, it stands out as being particularly bad. I’m starting to think that Waterford Whispers is a more credible news source at this point.
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